Dating can be your best friend.

...OR your big enemy.

A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to

his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote,  "He thinks

with his... You know."

Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if

you aren't physically satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We make our actions to achieve things and

influence the world in a positive way.

I've personally faced one of the biggest

challenges and it is balancing the two - my

carnal obsession and achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot

of time. Women will suck away at your time if

you don't know what you're doing.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in

the park, feeding the birds and cuddling...now

there's nothing wrong with spending quality

time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU

DON'T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, likewise to women.

In fact, it's a woman's NATURE to get the

man's time - it's her way of getting you to

invest in her. If she gets pregnant there's a

lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes

from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with

women. You see, most men want to give their

time to women. By nature men are "givers."

They like to please women, protect them, and

give them good feelings.

Guys have also a urges that can completely

take over your thinking.

Both of these things can get in the way of you

making the most of your life, your time.

I want you take a moment and ask this to

yourself, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO

WOMEN?"

Now I know it wasn't about "money," or

"control over my life," or "lots of my free

time."

It was probably something like "good feelings,

sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement,

feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good

about herself, etc."

I think men have problems with how they use

their time with women in two ways.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY

want to give aren't that valuable, so they

overcompensate with other stuff - like

spending too much time or money on a woman.

Second, men think that they are "getting"

something valuable when a girl spends time

with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe

that women are a prize to attain, and that

there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they

are, nothing more, nothing less. They are

cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that

important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it is really hard to break out of this

mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to

notice because you've been doing them for

years.

Young men are taught that their urges  is

crude and silly, and that it is just a favor

that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's a syndrome that I call a "doofus dad"

syndromeThere's another societal factor going

on, . In almost every TV commercial and

sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband"

is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the

mom/daughter/girlfriend/w ife has to use her

superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This leads to the perception that women are

"better," and thus, their time is more

valuable than yours.

If your time is not so valuable, then you will

feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here's the thing - you won't be present

for most of that time, if you are giving a

woman too much time. You will be distracted,

resentful, you will give her your "half-assed"

attention.

I just realize this after analyzing lots of

dates I went on women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION

to women even though I'm only giving a smaller

amounts of my time.

Aside from making our time better, this

creates a VAST ATTRACTION because I left women

craving more.

Now my girlfriends can't get enough of me - in

fact, I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

Ask you know, "enough" would mean,

"overexposure" to me, and women can't be

pulled to what they already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being

HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play

games with women and pretend to be busy or

whatever.

No need of games, just be real with the girl -

and don't spend more time that you want.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women

but still with focus on your personal goals.

Be the man on the go.

Now in a short amount of time it requires that

you are able to meet a lot of women, which

I'll have to cover in another newsletter.

It's not good to see that men waste their

lives chasing and "putting up with" girls, and

then they are left out ALONE.

Remember that women aren't property that you

can keep or somehow bring with you when you

die.

It doesn't mean that you can "keep" the women

if you invest all your time with her.

One more thing here - if you start being

honest with the amount of time you are willing

give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It's either a girl will try to make you feel

guilty, or you will feel it on your own. This

is ok, it just means you have a weak focus.

If you are following your true ways, it will

usually from the social norm.

If you are in the habit of adopting the values

that others try to impose onto you, you will

probably experience some tension, guilt,

discomfort, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction

Code. It's all about self-control, finding

true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge

from within.

And there's no need for us to impose our goals

onto you. Given the proper guidance, I know

you are able to do that for yourself.


Vin