Have you avoided approaching a girl just because she is
talking to another guy?

Or maybe you avoided approaching a group of girls with one
or two guys with them because you feared embarrassment just
because you ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

Most guys shy away from approaching women who are with other
guys for a couple reasons.

They assume that the girl is "with" the guy, and assume he's
her boyfriend.

This isn't a real reason to not talk to a woman, especially
in a bar - it's a social setting where people meet other
people. Plus - she's not his "slave" - she's a human being,
not a piece of property, so she is free to talk to whomever
she chooses.

You will extremely look confident if you approach more often
a woman who is "with" a guy and this can draw out the guy's
jealous side, making him look weak and insecure.

The second reason why guys don't approach woman who is
"with" a guy points to a deep insecurity based on a simple
misconception.

Guys assumed that the "other guy" is stronger, cooler, or
somehow more powerful than they are. Men tend to be
threatened by other men.

This is founded in an ancient survival strategy that has
been hardwired into the human brain.

In any given interaction, its often hard to tell who the
more "dominant" person is. So when a male is confronted by
another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.
The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious.

He doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as
was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

So it's better to play safe by assuming that the other guy
is a threat. Guys that were too bold may have won a few
confrontations, but it will take a single loss to end up
dead or exiled from the game.

And then their genes were eliminated from "race" so to
speak.

Usually the one that can lived long enough to survive and
reproduce are those guys that played it safe and avoided
confrontation.

The irony is that nowadays this hard-wired survival strategy
is the basis for most approach anxiety - men makes a false
assumptions that will lead them to avoid approaching women
unnecessarily.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to
another guy in the bar or club, she's not WITH him.

They JUST MET!

For many instances I've approached a girl with a guy
thinking it was her boyfriend, then only to find out that he
was just a random dude who just approached her. Or he was
just a friend or relative.

I think of all the times I completely avoided talking to a
woman because I saw her with another guy. I regret having
missed so many opportunities. Which brings me to my first
point:

I SHOULDN'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL I SEE A PHYSICAL
EVIDENCE. I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE GIRL.

You will know it if you try to act and find out. Just
remember that in time that they are together you should be
alert an respectful, the guy may be the insecure jealous
type and may start a confrontation.

So use your brain - just don't be stagnant in making a false
assumptions.

Another thing that I want to talk about is the idea that the
other guy can be more "dominant" than you are.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the
caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access
to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he
could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those powers are relevant today. Every
man with a source of income can survive on his own - if
you're reading this, you probably have access to food and
shelter. You're all set.

Plus, it's illegal to just beat people up. My point is,
physical strength is pretty much irrelevant in the modern
world.

Attacking another person will always end you up defeated
because the police always win.

If you think about it, you are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU
FOR NO REASON!

Just excuse my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk
to???

It was annoying - remembering all the girls I missed out on
because I was scare about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing
that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

When time comes that you're on your deathbed, you are going
to reminisce on all the things you did and didn't do. How
painful would it be to say "I didn't meet that woman because
I was worried of the other guy she's with," or "there were a
lot of beautiful that I could have enjoyed, but I didn't
even try to approached them because I saw them TALKING to
another guy.

I don't want that to be you.

So let's look at this on a deeper level. Seeing another guy
as more dominant means you don't truly understand dominance.

You see, you instantly consider yourself NOT dominant when
you're concerned with who is more dominant. There's a better
focus.

Dominant men don't think about who is dominant. To be
dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. So what
do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing
or want.

So when you see another guy talking to a group of girls.
Focus on the girls instead of worrying who is the dominant
between the two of you.

I seldom even acknowledge other guys, because it's proven to
be just a waste of time. 9 out of 10 women don't even know
the guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do know the guy, it's because he was a friend of
ONE of the girls, and the rest barely know him.

It's rare for girls to go out with a guy they are dating -
usually they will bring a guy who is more of a
protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable
when they go out on the town.

And also, if that guy IS with one of the girls, that means
he's NOT with the other girls - they are fair game.

When you are concerned with who's the alpha male, you are by
definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it's questionable
whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.

Have your focus in a USEFUL place and don't assume anything.
And don't let some random guy prevent you from enjoying YOUR
LIFE!