What The Pickup Artist on VH1 Wont Tell You About Fashion 2
10.22.08 (10:40 pm) [edit]
(continued from part 1)
There was about a couple of times that I did the peacocking. I did that to see if it worked because I heard that other guys were doing it.
I felt ridiculous, and was totally incongruent with my personality when I went out.
Women pay attention to fashion and like a well-dressed man, as we all know.
When I was in my workout clothes, or was wearing something basic - like jeans and a tanktop, I noticed that some of my best pickups occurred in there.
At the same time, women definitely did not respond well to those muscled-up guys wearing revealing spandex, or super-tight shirts at the club.
This got me thinking...maybe it's not how much the clothes cost, or how flashy they are...
I guess there is something else going on.
There are two things going on. This two things must be manage or balance.
First and foremost, never seek approval from women. If a woman can tell that you are trying to impress her or make her like you, you are toast.
So if you come like you got dressed with a purpose of getting women's attention, they'll see you coming a mile a way and put up their defenses.
You DON'T WANT to look like a pick up artist.
To dress modestly and not put too much thought into it avails much.
However, you don't want to look sloppy. You want to present yourself in the best way you can.
This comes back to self-expression.
You now have sense what kind of guy you are, what your "scene" is, what you think is cool.
Do not change that.
Instead, improve it, with these simple tweaks.
Wear colors that suites to your skin tone and hair color. This isn't rocket science. You can look online or go to n upscale men's clothing store, and ask someone about this.
Next, make sure your clothes are clean, and wrinkle free, and reasonably up-to-date. A woman should not have to worry about bringing you around her friends.
Lastly, make sure your clothes fit well, meaning, they ACCENTUATE YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.
Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and square your shoulders.
Put on a pants that make your legs look long and thin.
Wear shoes that make your feet look big and well-formed.
Groom yourself - nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a nice haircut. Shave, or don't, but figure out what looks great and take it all the way.
One other thing...
Accessories should hang off you loosely, and have the look of a small decoration that says, "yeah, I can fuck."
Use your intuition with this one. I don't want to say too much because that's a whole other topic.
There was about a couple of times that I did the peacocking. I did that to see if it worked because I heard that other guys were doing it.
I felt ridiculous, and was totally incongruent with my personality when I went out.
Women pay attention to fashion and like a well-dressed man, as we all know.
When I was in my workout clothes, or was wearing something basic - like jeans and a tanktop, I noticed that some of my best pickups occurred in there.
At the same time, women definitely did not respond well to those muscled-up guys wearing revealing spandex, or super-tight shirts at the club.
This got me thinking...maybe it's not how much the clothes cost, or how flashy they are...
I guess there is something else going on.
There are two things going on. This two things must be manage or balance.
First and foremost, never seek approval from women. If a woman can tell that you are trying to impress her or make her like you, you are toast.
So if you come like you got dressed with a purpose of getting women's attention, they'll see you coming a mile a way and put up their defenses.
You DON'T WANT to look like a pick up artist.
To dress modestly and not put too much thought into it avails much.
However, you don't want to look sloppy. You want to present yourself in the best way you can.
This comes back to self-expression.
You now have sense what kind of guy you are, what your "scene" is, what you think is cool.
Do not change that.
Instead, improve it, with these simple tweaks.
Wear colors that suites to your skin tone and hair color. This isn't rocket science. You can look online or go to n upscale men's clothing store, and ask someone about this.
Next, make sure your clothes are clean, and wrinkle free, and reasonably up-to-date. A woman should not have to worry about bringing you around her friends.
Lastly, make sure your clothes fit well, meaning, they ACCENTUATE YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.
Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and square your shoulders.
Put on a pants that make your legs look long and thin.
Wear shoes that make your feet look big and well-formed.
Groom yourself - nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a nice haircut. Shave, or don't, but figure out what looks great and take it all the way.
One other thing...
Accessories should hang off you loosely, and have the look of a small decoration that says, "yeah, I can fuck."
Use your intuition with this one. I don't want to say too much because that's a whole other topic.
What The Pickup Artist on VH1 Wont Tell You About Fashion 1
10.03.08 (1:06 am) [edit]
I am NOT the most fashionable guy in the world.
Usually it is my girlfriend who pick the clothes for me - not for my benefit...
... so that if we go out in public together she will not feel embarrassed!
If I were the one to pick my clothes, I'd rather pick the sweats and t-shirt, coupled with my old worn sneakers. I mean, I think fashion is silly.
I definitely appreciate the artistic aspect of fashion style and design. It is like a work of art when I look at a very well dressed woman, I dig that.
I kinda lose respect when a guy is "too stylish."
Don't misinterpret me, a man should present himself like he means to be taken seriously. A nice suit, good quality, well-fitting clothes are a basic of being a masculine.
But some guys take this so much.
Case in point, the obsession with "peacocking" in the pickup Community for the past several years.
It makes me cringe when I hear this term.
YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.
Let me explain what is "peacocking," in case you're not familiar.
There was an emergence of routine-based "game" a while ago that rely heavily on superficial techniques, status games, and over-analysis of social interactions.
This always gone in the opposite direction and I never saw the value of it.
Reason for this is that I saw how pretending to be someone other than yourself, and saying jokes and routines that other guys came up with JUST FELT WRONG.
On top of that, the FIRST FOCUS of all that strategy and game-playing was to eventually get approval from women, while making them feel insecure so they'd think you were cooler than them.
Think about the layers in the dating approach. Not only are you faking your personality because you
a) look for approval (as if girls were an authority on what makes man a man)
b) hide the truth that you're looking for approval
c) play games with women so that they will seek your approval when they feel insecure
YUCK
"Peacock," is one of the main techniques of this approach as to dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that women would "notice" you and want to talk to you.
Wearing a nice watch, or a necklace isn't a bad thing because some have personal meaning.
But I never do that just to make women like me.
I'm sure many guys have seen the advocates of this approach on TV shows,straining to make sense out of this hare-brained "technique."
I felt sad to the students of other pickup schools that I've encountered because these poor guys were not only nervous, clumsy, misdirected...they looked RETARDED.
So I'd like to set a record when it comes to fashion and meeting girls.
There are only few things that you need to focus when it comes to your appearance.
After knowing this stuff, you should put it out of your mind and TAKE ACTION before women can notice you.
Before moving on, I have something to expose.
(To be Continued in Part 2)
Usually it is my girlfriend who pick the clothes for me - not for my benefit...
... so that if we go out in public together she will not feel embarrassed!
If I were the one to pick my clothes, I'd rather pick the sweats and t-shirt, coupled with my old worn sneakers. I mean, I think fashion is silly.
I definitely appreciate the artistic aspect of fashion style and design. It is like a work of art when I look at a very well dressed woman, I dig that.
I kinda lose respect when a guy is "too stylish."
Don't misinterpret me, a man should present himself like he means to be taken seriously. A nice suit, good quality, well-fitting clothes are a basic of being a masculine.
But some guys take this so much.
Case in point, the obsession with "peacocking" in the pickup Community for the past several years.
It makes me cringe when I hear this term.
YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.
Let me explain what is "peacocking," in case you're not familiar.
There was an emergence of routine-based "game" a while ago that rely heavily on superficial techniques, status games, and over-analysis of social interactions.
This always gone in the opposite direction and I never saw the value of it.
Reason for this is that I saw how pretending to be someone other than yourself, and saying jokes and routines that other guys came up with JUST FELT WRONG.
On top of that, the FIRST FOCUS of all that strategy and game-playing was to eventually get approval from women, while making them feel insecure so they'd think you were cooler than them.
Think about the layers in the dating approach. Not only are you faking your personality because you
a) look for approval (as if girls were an authority on what makes man a man)
b) hide the truth that you're looking for approval
c) play games with women so that they will seek your approval when they feel insecure
YUCK
"Peacock," is one of the main techniques of this approach as to dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that women would "notice" you and want to talk to you.
Wearing a nice watch, or a necklace isn't a bad thing because some have personal meaning.
But I never do that just to make women like me.
I'm sure many guys have seen the advocates of this approach on TV shows,straining to make sense out of this hare-brained "technique."
I felt sad to the students of other pickup schools that I've encountered because these poor guys were not only nervous, clumsy, misdirected...they looked RETARDED.
So I'd like to set a record when it comes to fashion and meeting girls.
There are only few things that you need to focus when it comes to your appearance.
After knowing this stuff, you should put it out of your mind and TAKE ACTION before women can notice you.
Before moving on, I have something to expose.
(To be Continued in Part 2)