Synopsis and Predictions
I have seen the recent episode of Mystery's the Pick Up Artist that was aired on VH1 a few weeks ago and I wanted to share with you guys my predictions.
What I liked:
1. Ridiculous Outfits of Mystery. No one can peacock like mystery , hands down. And the shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don't believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It's a trainwreck.
2. The Students. I love pick up students in general, they're always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for the even the smallest amounts of improvement they make. Students are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do.
3. The Challenges. Creative, fun and entertaining. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.
What I didn't like:
1. Mystery not knowing why some of his students fail... He's so attached to his structured method , he literally has blind spots as to why his students get blown out... "Yeah he should have used a false time constraint". How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?
2. J-Dog's hair. I don't think I need to go into this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.
3. Using 4 year old, tired-out material, like "flossing before you brush etc.." Come on, we stopped using that stuff 3 years ago for GOOD reason! LAME, non-sensual conversation that goes NOWHERE! Sure you'll get the girl to answer your question, but that's not always what I call PROGRESS. If you're going to have the guys memorizing routines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?
Out of the four dudes left, here's some predictions:
Alvaro: This guy COULD become a master pua , but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery's tuleage. He's got that "inner flame" that drives him to excel at different things, but he's going to need to really work to get consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He's still got the brakes on. The minute he gets past that, his game will explode.
Joe: I think this guy has got serious potential on the show. He's got the attitude down, but he's the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He'll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. Not TRUE master pua material. I just don't see the kind of passion/drive that would carry him to Master PUAdom. He may do well on the show, however, just due to the lack of competition.
Brady: Tall, good looking, fast learner. He's chill, makes steady progress. His use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself is what's holding himself back. If he just chills out and acts NORMAL he'll be on fire. Again though, like joe, will probably become complacent at a certain level.
Pradeep: Could become a master pua, but he's gotta seriously increase his sensuality. He's in the friend zone still. Doesn't matter if he got that chick's number on the show because that was FRIENDLY number close. He's interesting but... too interesting. It's giving the woman something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc...
Overall, the show is super entertaining and I'll definitely be trying to catch another episode if I can.
Dating Tips: Are You for Real?
After spending a night and sleeping with her, how do you let her know that all of what you said will be backed up?
These questions have the same answer. Through “Credibility”.
Many guys think they don't have enough value, 90% of their problem is they lack credibility. In fact, most of the style they used these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.
"Player vibe" is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.
Creating credibility is one of the key components to sleeping with a girl quickly.
Other helpful component is sexual tension .
And as a good student of pick-up , you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)
So let's get down to it:
There are three levels of credibility.
1. Safety
2. Commonality
3. Direction
A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->
You have realize that every person you meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you have social programming. We all do.
It's not necessarily a bad thing. On the contrary, it's very useful.
Realize that although we understand a lot of a woman's behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect her to realize that.
While men have evolved an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, women have evolved an instinct to choose guys who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around to raise children.
And this instinct is reinforced by social programming.
Her programming is her reality. Her programming is literally her world.
And credibility is about showing you understand her world.
You can think of the three levels in this way:
Safety: The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you. It's safe to have you in her world.
Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you. You see the same things in her world. (Similar perceptions, values, and goals)
Direction: You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you. You have the ability to rearrange and alter her world.
HERE'S AN EXAMPLE ->
Think about if you were in your bedroom. Comfortably sitting in a chair.
And then a guy came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he asked you if you could vacate the chair where you are setting. And asked if he could urinate in the corner of your room.
Isn't it totally annoying? Of course it is. I bet you wouldn't trust a guy like that. You might even think “hey are you crazy!”.
He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. He's "in his own world". He doesn't understand and respect your world - you probably wouldn't connect with a guy like him or feel like giving him compliance.
This is how women feel when you don't demonstrate credibility.
If she thinks that it's a bad thing for people to kiss and tell (and most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe it's bad for people to kiss and tell.
The fact that you have the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility immensely.
These are best demonstrated in order.
And you can get really good at this. At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.
It's because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.
But as you move on and learned, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's worldview.
The best way of doing this is by anticipating your woman's thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.
At first you will just be remembering things she's said in the past, and then repeating it after she's forgotten what she previously told you.
Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.
That's when you know you get this thing.
When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.
She thinks "He's just like me!"
This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many people mess it up.
But once you get to this things, believe me your game will improve dramatically.
A Subtle but Powerful Fix in Your Pick-Up Techniques
“Some guys will never become great with women.” Yeah, it's true. A lot of guys just won't get it.
And it's not because they're not smart or somehow defective... In fact, it's a subconscious choice, that they have made unknowingly.
Now, you might be wondering if how can you make sure that you're not one of those guys?
Am I right?
Well I'm here to tell you how. I'll be sharing a very subtle but very powerful fix that most gurus leave it out in their equation. So, probably you will never hear this from them.
Meet Matt. Matt's a good and sociable guy and has taken a bootcamp with another pickup companies. But he still doesn't get the success he longs for; in fact he's not successful at all.
"Vin, why don't you help him!?"
There are a couple reasons why I don't help Matt out. One being he's too set in his ways and is stubborn.
BUT, that's not the real reason. If Matt was only stubborn I'd have an easy time changing his mind about things.
The real reason why I can't help him is the same reason why he isn't successful with women.
As what I have said, Matt's a good guy, but every time we make a conversation I get the feeling like he wanted something from me. In fact a lot of our common friends have said the same thing to me about him.
We don't like hanging out with Matt and neither do women.
Matt always give the vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he's trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.
The same thing happens when he's talking to women. He treats them nicely and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on the other side he has an underlying intention.
Having intentions with women isn't a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they'll acceptable it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.
If you come off as creepy and weird and you hide your intentions. Women won't trust you and they will feel unsafe being alone with you. You could be the best pretender in the world but... THEY WILL STILL KNOW.
Being creepy is the "Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will hinder your any chance of success you might have.
Now you have an idea on what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?
To start with you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It could be anything like telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.
Be out there talking to women not only because you want to pickup , but because women are amazing, fun and interesting to be with.
Next you need to start doing is being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean that you tell the girl directly “The purpose why I'm talking with you is so that I can get into your pants." That is a big turn-off and will absolutely kill your pickup about as fast as being creepy.
There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you're congruent with what you're saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.
Do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require? I didn't think so. I wouldn't want to spend the months writing that novel either.